…to fix a broken relationship with a student. That’s what I’ve come to believe. But it requires a lot from a teacher. Patience. Persistence. Willingness to start fresh. Faith.
I have one student that I work with that tested my belief in the nature of relationships. In a moment of frustration, I snapped at her. At the time, I thought she “deserved it” for acting like a jerk. But what she really deserved was to have a teacher who modeled the correct way that mature adults handle arguments. I screwed up. As people do.
And it cost me, big time, in relationship capital. This girl, with whom I had previously had a decent relationship, glared at me or ignored me for weeks.
It’s tough not to let that get to you. But I kept my faith that I with a consistent, warm, professional approach, I could win her back over.
Eventually, it worked. We’re cool again.
I hope I will find in the coming years that all mistakes I will make in the classroom can be fixed and learned from in the same way.